The Best Thing You Can Do For Others...

I often think of the beautiful ways that people are there for each other.  And, just as often, I see people sacrifice themselves for their family or loved ones.  I see people who have lost their relationship even though they have poured everything they had into that relationship.  And I have seen people who have, in spite of themselves, acted out in destructive ways, often motivated by misalignment and unhappiness in their relationship.

Back in April of 2011, this was the "Daily Quote" offered by a wonderful channeled entity called Abraham:

"The best thing you could do for anyone that you love, is be happy! And the very worst thing that you could do for anyone that you love, is be unhappy, and then ask them to to try to change it, when there is nothing that anybody else can do that will make you happy." --Abraham www.abraham-hicks.com

The meaning of this quote has opened like a lotus flower over the past year and a half, with deeper and deeper understanding how to apply this idea in my life.  Here are some things that have occurred to me:

My happiness is your happiness.  Instead of a co-dependent approach of trying to make others happy, I need to realize that really, everybody is trying to make everybody else happy.  This is great - but it can leave all kinds of expectations unrealized, and cause lots of stepping on each other in an attempt to make others happy.

I am responsible for my own happiness.  And you are responsible for your own happiness.  And when you are not happy, I am sad.  And I know the same is true vice versa.  So, lets all just agree to be responsible for our own happiness, and share that with each other!

Happiness means abundance.  When I am happy, I bring positive energy into my relationships and into the world. When I am happy I eat right, exercise, and enjoy time with the people I love.  When I am happy I have clarity on what is healthy for me to do in my life and in my relationships.  When I am happy there is an abundance of love, luck, prosperity, and wisdom available to me.

Lets stop living for other people's happiness, and start living in our own and in our shared happiness!

In love and light (and happiness),
Jim Barker
www.TheDivineHand.com